Each style has its distinctive strengths and weaknesses, so none is inherently better than the other. I have chosen to use the four distinct styles because they will improve my listening and communication skills in personal and work relationships. After many years of failing to understand my spouse's listening and communication skills, I am now somehow able to communicate effectively with him after applying the strategies. The best way to understand an individual is to listen to them. Listening is a necessary aspect and integral part of the communication process and is one of the most important skills one can acquire. Listening can also be an active experience when the listener is fully engaged and has absorbed the speaker's information by showing interest and providing feedback, all while demonstrating that they have heard and understood the message. A close friend of my wife and I came to our house to expose some personal problems he was having. I notice that during the conversation my husband was getting restless. He began to interrupt the conversation and felt the need to express his opinion before ours