“Grief cannot be shared. Everyone brings it alone. His burden in his own way” (Lindbergh). Grieving the loss of a loved one can be the most emotionally taxing moment in any human being's life. Not only is it a time to say goodbye to those we care about, but it is also a time for change, change that is not seen as pleasant or embraced. This change continues in life without those we have lost. For most, this experience is difficult, but most have the support and love of family to get them through, but for others this can be a lonely and perhaps even impossible task. This experience will affect a person both emotionally and physically, but it is important to learn how to deal with grief, and that is when the work of a funeral director or undertaker begins. Before a funeral director or undertaker can help with grief, they must understand it first. There are a few different stages and behaviors that people will display during grief. One of the first difficulties in dealing with a loss is the emotional and physical changes that a grieving person will experience. An individual will feel a wide range of emotions at this time and may even feel as if they are losing their sanity. As funeral home co-owner Jo Michaelson mentions in her book, "You [the customer] feel like you're on a turbulent roller coaster ride with all your emotional and physical ups and downs moving at accelerated speed " (Michaelson, 47). This is completely normal and represents an important step in the grieving process. Grief is necessary for healing and for a person to understand and understand their emotions. It's also a time to organize your thoughts. At first a person may not have rational thoughts and needs to throw away... half a sheet of paper... the pain as much as the family. They must remember not to let sadness overwhelm them and not interfere with their work, but also to show compassion towards their family. Different behaviors such as openly expressing sadness and anger, avoiding the situation, or even holding emotions inside are all normal during grief. There is no normal or right way to grieve. The job of undertakers and funeral directors is to help families through grief, no matter what stage they are in or how they are coping with a loss. They are willing to do anything to make the situation better, whether it's helping with counseling, helping with errands or homework, or completing an odd request. Whenever and wherever there is death and a grieving family or individual, there is an undertaker or undertaker right next to them to guide them.