Topic > Understanding Love: Perspectives from Raymond Carver's Book...

Love: a little four-letter word that exudes possibility. What is love? The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines love as “a feeling of strong and constant affection for a person.” But is it really possible to define love? In the story “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love,” by Raymond Carver, the four main characters discuss exactly this: what is love? Terri, in particular, has a unique perspective on love. This is exemplified early in the story when Terri is introduced: “Terri said the boss she lived with before she lived with Mel loved her so much he tried to kill her” (Carver 170). The dominant impression of Terri is that she is an easily influenced and manipulated character, which is the most convinced and clear about this. Time and time again, she asserts to Mel that Ed's love for her was genuine: "'It may seem crazy to you, but it's just true all the same... Sure, he might have acted crazy. That's fine. But he loved me. A his own way, perhaps, but he loved me.'” (Carver 171) While others often express dubious opinions about love, especially Mel, Terri remains steadfast in her attitude towards the subject he loved her until he died, as explained in the following quote: “'I was in the room with him when he died,' Terri said. 'He never came out of it. But I sat with him. He had no one else. .It was love,” Terri said. «Of course, in the eyes of most people it is abnormal. But he was willing to die for it. He died for this. (CarverThe transition from one unhealthy and dangerous relationship to another unhealthy relationship has transformed her into an easily influenced and manipulated person. Terri's ability to be easily influenced and manipulated, as well as her trust in Ed's love are the his dominant impressions. Terri holds fast to her belief that Ed loves her and is committed and clear about his position. The definition of love, however, remains unclear as to the true meaning of love. love is an infinite mystery, because there is nothing else that can explain it” (Rabindranath